I would like to challenge you today. The game that you’re playing isn’t against me and admittedly is not as fun as table shuffle board, which happens to be my new favorite thing.
This game is against yourself and the patterned behaviors that creep up into your day. This game is about being present and conscious of everything that you’re saying.
In essence, this game sort of stinks but it pays dividends in the future, girl scout’s honor (full disclosure- I was never a girl scout but I respect the weight of their word nonetheless). This challenge is best played on your day off because, as you’ll see in a moment, there may be parameters to this that may not vibe with your job, especially if you work in the entertainment industry.
Here’s how it works. Before you speak, your thought must pass through three gates.
Gate 1: Ask yourself, is what I’m about to say true? If the answer is yes you get to continue.
Gate 2: Ask yourself, is what I’m about to say necessary? If the answer is yes you get to continue.
Gate 3: Ask yourself, is what I’m about to say kind? If the answer is yes, Congratulations!! You get to speak.
You may notice that you aren’t talking very much. You may notice that the world exists without your opinion (I didn’t love swallowing that jagged little pill the first time). You may notice that you can’t engage in the same conversations that you usually do. You may notice that most of what you’re going to say passes through all three gates with no problemo. Whatever you do notice take a moment to recognize that feeling or observation and let yourself have that experience.
Try to go one day practicing this exercise and see how you feel when it’s done. If you succeed, I’ll give you a lollipop and you’ll probably be on your way to a more authentic existence.
Side note: If you do well and you want to play me in table shuffle board let me know.
By Megan Monahan
[main page photo credit: Elevators Are Fun]